“How was your day?”
Good talk. Let’s do it again tomorrow.
If you’re like me, you come home and ask your son or daughter the standard question: “How was your day?” If your child is like mine, you get the polite but monosyllabic response: “Fine.”
But, we can’t be satisfied with this. I don’t know about you, but I crave a lot more information about my son’s day than, “fine.” Five days a week, while I’m at the office, I miss out on the joys, the sorrows, the new discoveries, the challenges and the triumphs. So, these post-workday interviews are the way I can relive these special moments with him, but also get to really know my son; get to know what’s important to him, how he feels about things and the way he thinks. If you’re getting by on “fine,” you’re missing out.
A couple of years ago, when my son could actually carry on a conversation with me, I created a new “tradition” in the line of questioning. As we prepare for bedtime, I ask him two questions every single night:
– What was the best part of your day?
– What’s something you learned today?
But, it got me thinking, what are some other questions we can ask our children that will encourage a more robust discussion. Of course, you don’t have to ask them all of these every day, but add them to your set list. Here’s what I came up with:
- What’s something that made you laugh today?
- Who did you play with today?
- What made you feel loved today?
- What made you feel happy today?
- What made you feel sad today?
- What made you feel proud today?
- If you were the teacher of your class tomorrow, what would you teach?
- If you could have changed one thing about your day today, what would it be?
- What are you excited about tomorrow?
- What questions did you ask at school today?
- What is something you’ve been thinking about?
- What’s something nice you did for somebody else today?
- What’s something that was difficult for you today?
- What’s something new you want to learn how to do?
- Who had the best food at lunch today? What was it?
- What superpowers could you have used today, and how?
- How did you help somebody today?
- What’s something you saw or heard about today that you want to know more about?
- What is something new you learned today that you didn’t know yesterday?
- What kinds of things do you think I did today while you were at school?