Game of Throne

Are you ready for the final chapter? Of course you are… you’ve watched Arya become a revenge-hungry killing machine, almost forgotten when Ned lost his head nearly ten years ago, and you’re still reeling from Dany going nuclear on King’s Landing last week. I’m here to tell you a slightly different story, though. As the…

Distress Tolerance (part V)

Losing control and being okay; vulnerability and intimacy If you are reading these in order, you will know that last column I wrote about watching others suffer and being okay with it. This column is about losing control and being okay with it. Similar? Yes. Same? No. Watching someone else go through a tough time…

Distress Tolerance (part IV)

Watching Others in Distress Last column I promised that I would write (in this column) about the importance of watching other people tolerate their own distress. If you read this series in order, it makes a lot of sense because the last installment spent considerable time discussing invalidation or, put another way, bailing people out…

Distress Tolerance (part III)

In the last installment, I explained that emotions needed to be labeled accurately and validated in order for children to learn how to identify and tolerate what they experience. As children move through their emotional experiences, they begin to understand that they can tolerate other, larger emotional experiences. In other words, they can endure life…

Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu – A Reno Dads Guide

I am your average parent. My kids are involved in more activities than we have the time – or even the money – for, from travel baseball and Little League to basketball, golf, a lego class, and even a shooting league. As much as I love my kids in their favorite activity, baseball, the most…

Distress Tolerance (part II)

Previously… I grew up in the 80s and I fondly recall the phrase “previously on __” because it refreshed my memory of what happened in the episode before the episode I was about to watch. These days syndication kills that because Nick at Nite and TBS don’t seem to coordinate their re-runs. But I digress….

Reno Dads Podcast Episode 14: Intentional Parenting with Jake Wiskerchen

In this episode, the Reno Dads podcast sat down with our own Jake Wiskerchen to talk about developing a consistent parenting philosophy and how it can help when parenting happens in multiple households or with various caregivers who don’t necessarily live in the same household. Jake is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (MFT) and…

Distress Tolerance (part I)

I have said before (in my company podcast – Noggin Notes) that emotions can be described metaphorically as a wave. They have a beginning, a middle, and an end. As such, they are temporary and typically they last no longer than a few seconds. Learning to ride this metaphorical wave is critical for dealing with…

Review: The Lost World of Dragons

The Lost World of Dragons is an interactive exhibit brought to our community thanks to the May Museum (1595 N. Sierra Street – in Rancho San Rafael Park). We’ve been fortunate enough to share some of the May Museum’s past exhibits, such as Toytopia and the Hall of Heroes. I really loved seeing my childhood…

Ask Mr. Emotions: Shame and Guilt

We live in a society that has made shame and guilt undesirable. From the perspective of not wanting to experience discomfort, that makes sense. We all want to live in as much comfort and ease as possible. However, from a neurological, psychological, physiological, and sociological perspective, avoiding shame and guilt is a very dangerous premise….

Parenting can really be a pain in the… lower back region?

The afternoon of my bachelor party, I remember picking up my buddy from his house. As he walked to the car, his posture was stooped, his steps were short and he was holding his lower back. I thought he was joking about being old. He wasn’t. The pain only got worse the day after the…

Pilates Workout: A Reno Dads Experience

Stop me if you’ve heard this one before… fit guy walks into a different workout class and finds out just how challenging it is. Guy walks out with a new appreciation for just how hard it is to work out in a new way.  This is my version… A few weeks ago, Club Pilates offered…