Reno Dads Podcast Episode 22: Reno 1868 FC Assistant Coach Chris Malenab

Editor’s note: This story deals with the subjects of depression and suicide. If you, or anyone you know, is experiencing suicidal thoughts, you can contact the National Suicide Hotline by phone (1-800-273-8255) or text (send HOME to 741741). In this episode, Jake Wiskerchen and host Jonathan have a conversation with Chris Malenab, an assistant coach…

Distress Tolerance (part V)

Losing control and being okay; vulnerability and intimacy If you are reading these in order, you will know that last column I wrote about watching others suffer and being okay with it. This column is about losing control and being okay with it. Similar? Yes. Same? No. Watching someone else go through a tough time…

Distress Tolerance (part IV)

Watching Others in Distress Last column I promised that I would write (in this column) about the importance of watching other people tolerate their own distress. If you read this series in order, it makes a lot of sense because the last installment spent considerable time discussing invalidation or, put another way, bailing people out…

Distress Tolerance (part III)

In the last installment, I explained that emotions needed to be labeled accurately and validated in order for children to learn how to identify and tolerate what they experience. As children move through their emotional experiences, they begin to understand that they can tolerate other, larger emotional experiences. In other words, they can endure life…

Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu – A Reno Dads Guide

I am your average parent. My kids are involved in more activities than we have the time – or even the money – for, from travel baseball and Little League to basketball, golf, a lego class, and even a shooting league. As much as I love my kids in their favorite activity, baseball, the most…

Distress Tolerance (part II)

Previously… I grew up in the 80s and I fondly recall the phrase “previously on __” because it refreshed my memory of what happened in the episode before the episode I was about to watch. These days syndication kills that because Nick at Nite and TBS don’t seem to coordinate their re-runs. But I digress….

Reno Dads Podcast Episode 14: Intentional Parenting with Jake Wiskerchen

In this episode, the Reno Dads podcast sat down with our own Jake Wiskerchen to talk about developing a consistent parenting philosophy and how it can help when parenting happens in multiple households or with various caregivers who don’t necessarily live in the same household. Jake is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (MFT) and…

Distress Tolerance (part I)

I have said before (in my company podcast – Noggin Notes) that emotions can be described metaphorically as a wave. They have a beginning, a middle, and an end. As such, they are temporary and typically they last no longer than a few seconds. Learning to ride this metaphorical wave is critical for dealing with…

Ask Mr. Emotions: Shame and Guilt

We live in a society that has made shame and guilt undesirable. From the perspective of not wanting to experience discomfort, that makes sense. We all want to live in as much comfort and ease as possible. However, from a neurological, psychological, physiological, and sociological perspective, avoiding shame and guilt is a very dangerous premise….

The Modern Male Ethos: Improving the Merits of a Man’s Principles

In embarking upon the journey of discussing and hopefully improving the modern male ethos, I’ve offered my thoughts about “Improving the Merits of the Mind” and “Improving the Merits of the Heart”— two worthy endeavors for men and women alike. This article is to be my final installment in my three-part mini-series on male improvement….

The Modern Male Ethos: Improving the Merits of the Mind

When I teach argumentation and persuasion in my English 101 course, I delve into the Grecian modes of persuasion: ethos (credibility or character), pathos (passion or emotion), logos (logic or reasoning), and kairos (timing or opportunity). I always begin, however, with a detailed analysis of ethos. The ancient Greeks believed that if an individual’s ideas…

How Do We Achieve True Holiday Cheer?

Man, it sure is cheerful around this time of year. Cheer, cheer, cheer! I’ll bet you’ve even found yourself trying to out-cheer your neighbors. Or family. Or strangers in the store. So do you actually have more cheer around this time of year… or less? The holiday season has deep roots in a giving tradition….